Definition of Bullying
Bullying is derived from the word
Bully, which is a word that refers to the notion of the "threat" that
a person against another person (who generally weaker or "low" of
actors), which cause psychological disorders for the victim (victim called
bully bully boy or girl ) in the form of stress (which appears in the form of
physical or psychological disorders, or both; for example, difficulty eating,
physical pain, fear, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and others).
Moreover, Bully usually lasts for a long time (annual) so it may affect victims
psychologically. Actually, besides feelings above, a Bully victims also feel
angry and upset with what happened to them. There is also a feeling angry,
embarrassed and disappointed in herself for "letting" the incident
they experienced. But they could not "resolve" it, including not dare
to report the perpetrators in adults for fear of being labeled a coward,
artisan ngadu, or even blame. With the emphasis that the bully is done by
school-age children, it should be noted that one of the characteristics of
school-age children is their egocentrism (everything is centered on him) is
still dominant. So that when an incident happens to him, the child still think
that it is because of him.
Definition of Bullying according
sensitive (Characters Child Care) was bullying is the use of aggression with
the intention of hurting another person either physically or mentally. Bullying
can be physical actions, verbal, emotional and sexual.
Here is an example of action that
includes kategory bullying; both individual and group perpetrator intentionally
harm or threaten the victim by means of:
- Set aside someone from the
association,
- Spreading gossip, mebuat
nickname that is mockery,
- Work on a person to embarrass
him,
- Intimidate or threaten the
victim,
- Physically hurt,
- Do the bullying / pengompasan.
Bullying is not the same as
occasional conflict or contention ordinary common in children. Conflict is a
normal child and make the child learn how to negotiate and agree with each
other. Bullying refers to measures aimed at hurting and done repeatedly. The
victims are usually children who are weaker than the perpetrator.
According to Dan Olweus, Author of
Bullying at School Bullying can be divided into two major parts:
1. Direct bullying: physical
intimidation, verbal.
2. Indirect Bullying: social
isolation.
Bullying was very painful for the
victim. Nobody deserves to be bullied. Everyone has the right to be treated and
valued appropriately and fairly. Bullying has a negative impact on the
development of children's character, both for the victim and the perpetrator.
Here is an example of the impact
of bullying to the victim:
- Depression
- Low self-esteem /
self-conscious
- Shy and reclusive
- Decline in academic achievement
- Feeling socially isolated
- It occurred or even try to
commit suicide
On the other hand, if left
unchecked, bullies will learn that there is no risk whatsoever for them when
they commit violence, aggression and threatening other children. When the adult
actors that have a greater potential to be thugs or criminals and would bring
problems in social interaction.
Certainly connection still
remember the case in STPDN / IPDN that until the casualties. And who knows how
many hundreds and perhaps even thousands and millions of people who never taste
education in STPDN / IPDN damaged due to mental and soul has been in Bullying
By his senior and in the end they reward back doing the same thing as his
senior brother, do Bullying. And it will continue to happen for generations and
its educational institutions Unsurprisingly is official scorer.
Bullying does not occur also
among students and seniors but also often occur by the teacher and might not
happen if the student who committed suicide in arrears SPP did not feel
humiliated and marginalized in front of classmates. Whether it's because the
calling repeatedly had to face the principal or a different treatment from the
school for him. It could be that it will not happen again "ridiculous
death" as a result of new admissions process, if we do not consider the
practice of hazing as a matter of course.
Bully is divided into two forms,
direct action such harm, threaten, or vilify others. While the shape is not
directly incite, silence, or exclude others. Whatever the form of Bully by a
child to other children, the goal is the same, namely to "suppress"
the victim, and have the satisfaction of such treatment. Perpetrators satisfied
look of fear, anxiety, and even hostility from his victim's eyes.
Characteristics Bully victims are
those who are not able to fight or defend himself from Bully action. Bully
usually appear at school age. Bully perpetrators have certain characteristics.
Generally they are the children of the brave, not easily scared, and has
certain basic motif. The main motive is usually found on the suspected offender
Bully is their aggressiveness. In fact, there are other motives could also
owned by the perpetrator Bully, ie low self-esteem and anxiety. Bully become a
form of self-defense (defense mechanism) that is used by the perpetrator to
mask feelings of inferiority and anxiety that. "The success of"
actors do not act the bully may not continue into other forms of violence, even
more dramatic.
As parents, we must be aware of
the existence of bullying behavior in children, both children as victims or as
perpetrators. Some things that can be observed in the case of bullying are:
How to recognize children who
indicated experiencing intimidation at school? Some tips are summarized from
various sources Kompas.com this might help you. The characteristics that must
be considered include:
1. Reluctant to go to school
2. Often ill suddenly
3. Experiencing impairment
4. Goods owned by missing or
damaged
5. Nightmare or even difficult to
sleep
6. Sense of anger and hate the
easier it overflows and increased
7. It is difficult to make
friends with new friends
8. Has physical signs, such as
bruises or cuts
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